Spring Break, baby!!

So it wasn't quite like wet t-shirt contests and midnight parties on the beach.... but, it has been dance parties, dunk contests, and lots of snuggling! Spring break with a 7, 6, and 1 year old (at home and on a budget) requires a little planning. We sure had a blast with our stay-cation activities, and I hope it's something that these babes will remember. They woke each day with smiles on their faces, were thrilled for our day of activities (no matter how lame or grand), and every night they went to bed, wanting to slumber together and talk. Now, how precious is that?

Happy 1st Birthday Pais!

Well, here's my proof that a year can fly by...

Our little baby girl turns ONE today! It seems like only a week ago I was rushing out of work, only to be holding our special gift from God just one short hour later. [For more on that birthing story, click here.] And yet, so much has happened in this year. She has grown and changed, laughed and cried, loved more than any other, learned to feed herself and throw her food, taken her first steps, made lots of noises, become so curious, and soon she'll be moving to China! Now, how many 1 year olds can say that!?!?

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Paisley, you amaze us every day, and we are so blessed to have you in our lives. As cliche as it sounds, I can't ever imagine how our lives would be without you. You truly add such a fun and inspiring dimension to every day, and for that, I'm a better person. Thank you for giving me the gift of motherhood, yet again.

What a day!

We've only known it's coming for 1/2 a year. You'd think we'd be prepared. But nothing could have made me ready for him to walk away. No one could have told me exactly how I would have felt at that moment. ... And there's not much allowing me to put it aside either.

One week ago, Jarin picked the kids up from school, dropped Cade off at the house, and took his little girl out on a date with ice cream, and a special mani and pedi {sparkles and all}! We then enjoyed a home-cooked dinner together -- Jarin's pick -- and daddy tucked everyone in tightly. That in itself was more of a challenge than expected. Tears flowed when saying "I love you," and that baby girl looked up into his eyes and asked why he was crying. Unfortunately, as there is no way for us adults to be ready, preparing the children is even more difficult. Jars did what any daddy would do, and just held her a little closer that night.

Later!

With Jarin taking off to Shanghai soon, the good-bye's and farewell's have started. We have taken the time to hang out with so many friends and family whether for breakfast, birthdays, a hockey game, bowling or a full night out!

Maybe we should pretend someone close to us is leaving more often. Seriously. We have had so much fun!!!

We're doing something right...

It was just one of the six cancelled school days due to snow this year, and I was getting ready for the day when I overheard Caden (7) and Alayna (6) getting into a deep conversation that I wasn't prepared for. I eaves-dropped for a little while before deciding that I better step in...quick. Their discussion went something like this:

C: Do you know what it means to be gay?
A: No.
C: Layna, do you know what gay means? It means that you have sex with people.
A: [Silence]
C: Alayna, did you hear me? [pause] Joey in my class is gay.
A: I don't care. I'm not listening to you.

Whew! at least she wasn't drawing out that conversation. But, I couldn't just ignore it. There were so many issues going on in this two-minute conversation, that I didn't even know where to begin. So, I took a deep breath, wished that Jarin would've been home to handle this one, and prayed for God give me the strength to respond correctly. I first gave Alayna some tasks to keep her busy and then pulled Cade aside for a sit-down discussion.

Oh, Hayden Ranae!

I've gotten lucky with the amount of time I've had with my sweet niece recently. From our shopping dates, to our sleepovers, and day dates painting and baking....

It's a Girl Day!

It's pretty amazing to think that six years ago, we were welcoming home a new baby girl. Take a look at this chunky-monkey at just 1 year old...

Over the years, she has changed our lives more than she'll ever know. She has taught me about the power of art, color and beauty. She has empowered me to be an individual, to stand up for myself, and to fight for what I believe. In six years, she has shown more love to those around her than any child I've ever met. She is so interested in other children, passionate about those who need a helping hand, and willing to put others needs first. She has a heart of gold, bigger than this universe, and I'm so blessed to be her mama.

The Journey

Today marks my last day at an agency that has fulfilled my professional goals more than any business ever could. In the past 2.5 years, I have seriously grown so much through partnerships, goodwill, understanding of quality service, providing for children, making a difference, and impacting the community. My time at Big Brothers Big Sisters is truly one I will never forget. The mission and purpose of my work there aligned so perfectly with my heart, that I feel blessed to have had that connection. Many, I understand, never get that fulfillment.

However, I begin my next journey. A path I never envisioned. A dream that I never dreamt. This afternoon, I will walk away from my office being a mom to three wonderful children, a wife to a very successful man and a free-spirited woman who can enjoy the joys of life. All without stress, pressure, or expectation. This journey is not outlined for me. There is no pathway. And there will not be any measurement except for happiness. As we move our family around the world, to Shanghai, China, I couldn't be more anxious to see what the next two years hold.

I must thank my amazing support. From those who encourage me professionally, to my family and my favorite girlfriends, I will remember you all, keep a special place for you in my heart and cherish all that you have taught me to be. Everyday I wear this bracelet, a gift from two of my best side-kicks, and it helps me to look forward to this journey ahead.

Thank you to every who continues to stand beside us and cheer us on. We wouldn't be able to take this leap of faith without your support.

Memories for Life

More than 37 years ago my mother took a job at a credit union. Little did she know that she would continue her journey there, raise two children while balancing her career, move from part-time teller to assistant Vice President, or one day retire from the same company.

In celebration of those accomplishments, she chose to take our family for a week in San Francisco. We rented a home, toured through Alcatraz, Fisherman's Wharf, and wine country. We biked the Golden Gate, hiked 1000 feet in Muir Woods, and experienced Irish Coffee late at night. We rode the cable cars, hopped bars from Pier 1 to 39, and ate fresh seafood from the bay. Ultimately, we made memories.

We did exactly what mom set out for us to do, which was to build our bond between the six of us, celebrate our family, and have fun. Mom, we are all so appreciative for the opportunity provided... and we are so proud of you, the years you put in, and the family you built. Thank you for letting us celebrate with you. Happy retirement!

 

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It'll be a Journey!

While writing has been a safe zone for me, this is one entry that I couldn't hit "publish" until all was said and done. Yet, with my ever-changing feelings and whirl-wind of emotions, I wanted to be sure to capture my thoughts. 

The wait is over! Here's my "diary" from the last couple months.

Wednesday, August 21-

On May 3rd Jarin and I headed out to celebrate his graduation from the year-long Economic Alliance Leadership of the Five Seasons Program. It's a prestigious group, usually nominated and supported by community employers to build talented, engrained, and devoted Cedar Rapids citizens, with the idea that they are the future leaders of this community. Ironically, on the way there Jarin asks my perspective on an opportunity abroad. Would I consider? Hmmm, I hadn't really thought about it. Considering we spent the last several years either 2 or 4 hours away from home and felt it was too far, of course I hadn't thought about making a move that took a day to travel by plane. Plus, we are finally back in Cedar Rapids, with a home we love, a school we cherish, jobs that we admire. Yet, I looked at him with a spark of interest and asked for more information. I never did study abroad, but wished I had. Our kids are at the perfect age to adapt easily and pick up a new language. And, I secretly have been wanting to stay home. :)

Fast forward through an inquiry process where we learned our options would be Germany, the UK, or China; an application process that took much of our vacation time in June to ensure it was perfectly written, reviewed, and submitted; and even a full interview day in Chicago with national McGladrey leaders early in August.... And what do we have, but an offer to move our family for 3 years to Shanghai, China. They want an answer by Friday. 

Seriously... there is no way. I can't make that decision. I know nothing of China. And, did I mention my mom is in Vegas and therefore I can't go talk with her about this? (Reason #467 why it's probably not a good idea that I move to China.)

Thursday, August 22-

I barely slept last night, have a pounding headache today, and can't focus. Everyone I talk to (and actually share about our opportunity to China) has a great perspective. Many are extremely energetic about the idea, believe it's such a once in a lifetime opportunity, and very proud of Jarin. And let me be clear, I am proud of him too. To be recognized across the country as an individual they want to send internationally -- wow! With nearly 90 candidates, that is an honor.  

In just two days, we've talked to a lot of people. And, I see those perspectives. I get it. When else will my children learn a second language, appreciate others different than them, and experience true culture like this? To be completely supported by the firm, allowed to travel the world, getting two trips home per year to visit. This is truly an ideal situation. Still, to fathom the idea of submerging our family into a culture where language is a barrier, differences are obvious, accessing basic needs is challenging, and family is far away is .... well, scary.  

I have to understand that those who we are connecting with are top notch, highly-respected, family-oriented people who tell us: "don't to pass it up" or "do it in a heart beat" or "I wish I'd had that opportunity." We are asking opinions because we respect these people, they are our mentors.  

I truly feel that a trip there is the only way that I will know what to expect, and if I could do it.  

Wednesday, September 11-

Well, the itinerary is set and our visas have arrived. I can’t believe that we’ve agreed to explore the option of living in China. I’m still not sold on the idea, and not sure that I ever will be. But, I promised that I would go there with an open mind, and I can only do that by clearing my mind first. Until this point, it’s been filled with the pressure of planning. I’ve spent so many days arranging for the kids’ activities, ensuring that (the AMAZING) grandma’s know how and when to have the kids where, and doing my best not to disrupt their daily routines. Looking back, I wonder why we create so much chaos in our lives. Why must the kids each be enrolled in four activities a week; why are we so adamant on maintaining a strict schedule; why does it feel impossible, professionally, to walk away from the office for a week?

The reality is that Caden won’t fail at football if he misses a practice; Alayna won’t be any less athletic if she doesn’t get to running club by 8 a.m.; Paisley will let you know when she’s hungry; and it is okay for my work partners to receive an out of office message. It makes me wonder how much of this is the culture of our American society to receive immediate feedback, accomplish so much, and be described as All-American. Maybe the Chinese perspective would be good for us after all.

Friday, September 13-

I very much appreciate the guidance from so many. My boss offered to be a sounding board upon my return. Aunt Linda was praying that God guide us in the right way. Aunt Lori promised that a phenomenal family of support would be here for us no matter what. Jarin’s mom simply said, put the pressures behind. All the decisions will come later. For now we need to think of this as vacation for Jarin and I – a time to just get away and spend time together. Unfortunately, I haven’t been able to use that advice until now that we are in flight. So to my mom for being patient, to my husband for understanding, to Trisha for keeping me grounded, and to my sister for listening…. Thank you for letting me freak out a little bit while we got this trip organized. 

Saturday, September 14-

Lessons learned while flying international:

·         Bring snacks. The food is less than ideal, and doesn’t align with the schedule that you are leaving behind.

·         Dress warm. Even when the forecast is high 80’s, the plane will feel like 40. The blankets provided on the plane are thin and useless. Even two of them layered barely relieve the goose bumps.

·         Travel pillows are a must. No matter what way you slice it, sleeping sitting up is a pain in the neck.

·         They serve beer. Free. My husband figured that one out early. Watch out flight attendant!

·         Don’t pay for the emergency exit row, just to get extra room. There is no window view. You are interrogated on multiple occasions whether you’d be willing to help if something happens. The beverage cart and all the chaos that comes with it are parked at your feet. And, you are in the way of the lavatory line for most of the flight.

·         Good luck pumping. I was told that I could use the lavatory for my duties, but after seeing the numerous people using (and not aiming in) that thing during the 14 hour flight… no thanks. I pumped in my seat. You’re welcome, Sir to my left.

 

Monday, September 16-

After our first full day out among the city life, I bring you Chinese Myths Busted….

·         People pee all over on the street. The only peeing in the street that I saw was from two children under the age of three. And as gross as it was, their little bums hanging out was kinda cute!

·         The weather is a lot like home. Not so much!!! It’s hot here, and this 90 degree fall day is cool compared to what it’s been.

·         The pollution is terrible. In the morning we could see forever along the horizon. Even walking among all the traffic, I didn’t feel it hard to breathe or smelly. Depending on the way in which the wind blew, there was some haze, but no different than what I would attribute to any large metropolitan.

·         Skinned dogs will be hanging along the street. And it's dirty. There were a few low-socioeconomic neighborhoods and districts that we walked through where goods and laundry hung out the window; however, overall the main thing I saw hanging along the street was beautiful flowers, trees, and foliage. The greenery is gorgeous here. And did I mention there are few birds or bugs?

·         Locals are rude. Not so much. They are very kind, and willing to accommodate your needs. They feel bad if they don’t understand the English language or are unable to help you.

·         The language barrier will be very tough. True, in part. There is a language barrier; however a smile, nod, handshake, or gesture all hold the same meaning across cultures.

Friday, September 20-

Well, it's been a busy week. And I must say it's pretty amazing here.

We spent a day with another expat from Rochester, New York who also planned to come to China for three years. (Although she's now been here for 13!) Alice showed us through the city, walked us through the markets, and assisted in tours of hospitals.

We spent another day visiting American schools throughout the city and definitely have a favorite that stands out to us. The access to technology and extra curriculars are amazing. It's obvious the kids will flourish. Up until this point I knew that the kids would attend school, make friends and become comfortable; I knew that Jarin would lead his career daily and go in with business as usual; but I worried about me. What would I do? Visiting the schools changed that perspective for me. I was so welcomed. Immediately the teachers and principals were engaging and interested in helping me get involved. I can honestly say, I'll be good.

We visited the fake markets, shopped with the locals and tourists, experienced the nightlife, ran through the city each day, braved the subways and toured homes. Let me tell you, one would have thought we were on HGTV's House Hunters International! It was an overwhelming experience. The housing we saw offered so many amenities. And the views of a city that holds 23 million people were incredible.

Aaaaahhhh! How do you say no to this?

Friday, October 4-

We signed!! ... And I submitted my resignation at one if the best places I've ever been employed. Oh my. I'm so overwhelmed! What does this mean? How will it play out? What are the logistics of moving a family of five around the world? I have so many questions. 

Everyone is so blown away when we share the news. Trust me, I can hardly believe that we'll soon be residing in China! 

Stay tuned to follow our journey. It will promise to be incredible.