Wednesday, January 30, 2013

Cancer Sucks

You've seen the signs, right?

I HATE CANCER

Well, I can't agree more. For some reason, over the last few months, it is running rapid among my friends and family, and it feels like it's taking control of lives that shouldn't be affected.

Take my uncle for example. He's been a successful farmer for years, worked hard, paid his dues, married my wonderful aunt and continues to treat her as a queen, raised three beautiful kids who provided him a wealth of grandbabies, manages a sense of humor to make anyone's day. And yet, cancer has invaded his body. He's fought the fight, dealt with the headaches, completed bounds of treatment, and now the doctors tell him it's not helping.

Or what about our close family friend, who won a silent auction basket providing her a health exam that she probably wouldn't have considered doing otherwise. It led her into the surgical room with the likelihood that she had thyroid cancer. After the scare of who would mother her young girls at home, she was discharged with good news.

If one case of thyroid cancer isn't enough, I recently learned of another -- my cousin. She's younger than I, recently became a mother, and now scared that she may not be able to produce another baby. Her surgery was a full removal of the thyroid, and again successful. She's home relaxing now with her daughter - the best place to be.

Another uncle of mine is now experiencing multiple, consecutive days of chemotherapy each week to fight off the swelling tumors in his neck. He, like all others I speak of, doesn't deserve this. He has three grown girls, who lost their mother young from an MS battle nearly 5 years ago. The last they need is to watch their father struggle through a similar fight.

And finally, a dear friend from our days in Minneapolis recently went in for routine exam, ended up with a scheduled hysterectomy and stage 3A uterine cancer. She provides speech therapy for early childhood kiddos and truly spends her days with the children as her main focus. She isn't self-focused, arrogant, or selfish.... she's just the opposite - caring, considerate, and modest. Why her?

And then I remember my first, memorable interaction with cancer. I was in high school and I witnessed my young aunt, in her twenties, fighting breast cancer. She had (and still has!) and amazingly beautiful husband, and two precious baby girls at home, and yet I sat with her on the floor of her living room, crying about a boyfriend that did me wrong. That was when she looked at me, and shared how short life is. She divulged her experiences and showed me that her beautiful hair was a wig. Her story really affected me, touched my heart, and changed my life. I watched her continue to battle this terrible disease, and nearly twenty years later, after many prayers, she remains cancer free.

It's courage like hers that we need to remember. Here's to hoping that all those I love so dearly can fight this battle as strong as my aunt has. And as hard as it is, we need to remember that cancer really is limited...

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Tuesday, January 15, 2013

The Impact of BBBS


Since 1999, I've spent about 8 years mentoring children through Big Brothers Big Sisters, and I witnessed a difference in the two kiddos that I worked with. Evan went from a sassy kindergartener with little respect for adults to a polite 3rd grader, who beemed each day that I came to have lunch with him. The other, Amanda, had a rough life at home, parents who cared a little, and a self-esteem that was beyond low. After spending a few hours with her once a month, I saw more confidence and recently she shared with me that she's even graduated from Kirkwood!

However, it's the time that I've spent as Program Director at the agency, that's brought a true understanding about the financial needs and what it takes to serve these kids. Last year, we matched 752 kids with a one-to-one mentor, and continued supporting these matches with resources, tickets to events in the community, activities, and support. The cost to support one of these matches is about $1200 each year, and that is why our Bowl for Kids Sake fundraiser is so important.

Please consider donating online to this cause. With your donations, I will be bowling for the agency and these kids, and 100% of the funds raised will go back to providing children in the Cedar Rapids area with a mentor. For the kids, it's simple: they just want to feel special. For the volunteers, they are teaching about opportunity. And for you, as a donor, it's as little as giving $5.
 
And in case you need a little more of a reason to contribute, read Xavier's story below:
 
Damon and Xavier are a great match and have built a close relationship with one another since being matched in 2010, with that bond extended to and including all of Damon’s family. Damon’s young daughters look up to Xavier as their big brother! Damon has been instrumental in helping Xavier get on the right track academically and socially.
Damon and Xavier are participating in the agency’s CARE Program this fall, hoping to develop better habits toward positive academic achievement. Damon felt that offering a challenge to Xavier might help encourage him and so he told Xavier that if he had a 3.2 GPA at the end of the trimester, Xavier could shave Damon’s head! Damon knew a 3.2 GPA was going to be quite a stretch and wasn’t too concerned about it but, as you can see from the photo, Xavier stepped up and not only achieved the goal but well exceeded the goal, putting him on a path to success! 


With Damon’s support, Xavier became involved in extra-curricular activities at school, helping him build positive social relationships. Their most recent activity was doing a job shadow together. Xavier had expressed interest in being a construction manager so Damon lined up a job shadow for them. Xavier had a chance to review blueprints, helped prepare a cost estimate for a job and got to visit an actual construction site! Damon said it was a fun day for both of them.