The
wait is over! Here's my "diary" from the last couple months.
Wednesday,
August 21-
On
May 3rd Jarin and I headed out to celebrate his graduation from the year-long
Economic Alliance Leadership of the Five Seasons Program. It's a prestigious
group, usually nominated and supported by community employers to build
talented, engrained, and devoted Cedar Rapids citizens, with the idea that they
are the future leaders of this community. Ironically, on the way there Jarin
asks my perspective on an opportunity abroad. Would I consider? Hmmm, I hadn't
really thought about it. Considering we spent the last several years either 2
or 4 hours away from home and felt it was too far, of course I hadn't thought
about making a move that took a day to travel by plane. Plus, we are finally
back in Cedar Rapids, with a home we love, a school we cherish, jobs that we
admire. Yet, I looked at him with a spark of interest and asked for more
information. I never did study abroad, but wished I had. Our kids are at the
perfect age to adapt easily and pick up a new language. And, I secretly have
been wanting to stay home. :)
Fast
forward through an inquiry process where we learned our options would be
Germany, the UK, or China; an application process that took much of our
vacation time in June to ensure it was perfectly written, reviewed, and
submitted; and even a full interview day in Chicago with national McGladrey
leaders early in August.... And what do we have, but an offer to move our
family for 3 years to Shanghai, China. They want an answer by Friday.
Seriously...
there is no way. I can't make that decision. I know nothing of China. And, did
I mention my mom is in Vegas and therefore I can't go talk with her about this?
(Reason #467 why it's probably not a good idea that I move to China.)
Thursday,
August 22-
I
barely slept last night, have a pounding headache today, and can't focus.
Everyone I talk to (and actually share about our opportunity to China) has a
great perspective. Many are extremely energetic about the idea, believe it's
such a once in a lifetime opportunity, and very proud of Jarin. And let me be
clear, I am proud of him too. To be recognized across the country as an
individual they want to send internationally -- wow! With nearly 90 candidates,
that is an honor.
In
just two days, we've talked to a lot of people. And, I see those perspectives.
I get it. When else will my children learn a second language, appreciate others
different than them, and experience true culture like this? To be completely
supported by the firm, allowed to travel the world, getting two trips home per
year to visit. This is truly an ideal situation. Still, to fathom the idea of
submerging our family into a culture where language is a barrier, differences
are obvious, accessing basic needs is challenging, and family is far away is
.... well, scary.
I
have to understand that those who we are connecting with are top notch,
highly-respected, family-oriented people who tell us: "don't to pass it
up" or "do it in a heart beat" or "I wish I'd
had that opportunity." We are asking opinions because we respect these
people, they are our mentors.
I
truly feel that a trip there is the only way that I will know what to expect,
and if I could do it.
Wednesday,
September 11-
Well,
the itinerary is set and our visas have arrived. I can’t believe that we’ve
agreed to explore the option of living in China. I’m still not sold on the
idea, and not sure that I ever will be. But, I promised that I would go there
with an open mind, and I can only do that by clearing my mind first. Until this
point, it’s been filled with the pressure of planning. I’ve spent so many days
arranging for the kids’ activities, ensuring that (the AMAZING) grandma’s know
how and when to have the kids where, and doing my best not to disrupt their
daily routines. Looking back, I wonder why we create so much chaos in our
lives. Why must the kids each be enrolled in four activities a week; why are we
so adamant on maintaining a strict schedule; why does it feel impossible,
professionally, to walk away from the office for a week?
The
reality is that Caden won’t fail at football if he misses a practice; Alayna
won’t be any less athletic if she doesn’t get to running club by 8 a.m.;
Paisley will let you know when she’s hungry; and it is okay for my work
partners to receive an out of office message. It makes me wonder how much of
this is the culture of our American society to receive immediate feedback,
accomplish so much, and be described as All-American. Maybe the Chinese
perspective would be good for us after all.
Friday,
September 13-
I
very much appreciate the guidance from so many. My boss offered to be a
sounding board upon my return. Aunt Linda was praying that God guide us in the
right way. Aunt Lori promised that a phenomenal family of support would be here
for us no matter what. Jarin’s mom simply said, put the pressures behind. All
the decisions will come later. For now we need to think of this as vacation for
Jarin and I – a time to just get away and spend time together. Unfortunately, I
haven’t been able to use that advice until now that we are in flight. So to my
mom for being patient, to my husband for understanding, to Trisha for keeping
me grounded, and to my sister for listening…. Thank you for letting me freak
out a little bit while we got this trip organized.
Saturday, September 14-
Lessons
learned while flying international:
·
Bring
snacks. The food is less than ideal, and doesn’t align with the schedule that
you are leaving behind.
·
Dress
warm. Even when the forecast is high 80’s, the plane will feel like 40. The
blankets provided on the plane are thin and useless. Even two of them layered
barely relieve the goose bumps.
·
Travel
pillows are a must. No matter what way you slice it, sleeping sitting up is a
pain in the neck.
·
They
serve beer. Free. My husband figured that one out early. Watch out flight
attendant!
·
Don’t
pay for the emergency exit row, just to get extra room. There is no window
view. You are interrogated on multiple occasions whether you’d be willing to
help if something happens. The beverage cart and all the chaos that comes with
it are parked at your feet. And, you are in the way of the lavatory line for
most of the flight.
·
Good
luck pumping. I was told that I could use the lavatory for my duties, but after
seeing the numerous people using (and not aiming in) that thing during the 14
hour flight… no thanks. I pumped in my seat. You’re welcome, Sir to my left.
Monday, September 16-
After
our first full day out among the city life, I bring you Chinese Myths Busted….
·
People pee all over
on the street. The
only peeing in the street that I saw was from two children under the age of
three. And as gross as it was, their little bums hanging out was kinda cute!
·
The weather is a lot
like home.
Not so much!!! It’s hot here, and this 90 degree fall day is cool compared to
what it’s been.
·
The pollution is
terrible.
In the morning we could see forever along the horizon. Even walking among all
the traffic, I didn’t feel it hard to breathe or smelly. Depending on the way
in which the wind blew, there was some haze, but no different than what I would
attribute to any large metropolitan.
·
Skinned dogs will be
hanging along the street. And it's dirty. There were a few
low-socioeconomic neighborhoods and districts that we walked through where
goods and laundry hung out the window; however, overall the main thing I saw
hanging along the street was beautiful flowers, trees, and foliage. The greenery
is gorgeous here. And did I mention there are few birds or bugs?
·
Locals are rude. Not so much. They are
very kind, and willing to accommodate your needs. They feel bad if they don’t
understand the English language or are unable to help you.
·
The language barrier
will be very tough.
True, in part. There is a language barrier; however a smile, nod, handshake, or
gesture all hold the same meaning across cultures.
Friday,
September 20-
Well,
it's been a busy week. And I must say it's pretty amazing here.
We
spent a day with another expat from Rochester, New York who also planned to
come to China for three years. (Although she's now been here for 13!) Alice
showed us through the city, walked us through the markets, and assisted in
tours of hospitals.
We
spent another day visiting American schools throughout the city and definitely
have a favorite that stands out to us. The access to technology and extra
curriculars are amazing. It's obvious the kids will flourish. Up until this
point I knew that the kids would attend school, make friends and become
comfortable; I knew that Jarin would lead his career daily and go in with
business as usual; but I worried about me. What would I do? Visiting the
schools changed that perspective for me. I was so welcomed. Immediately the
teachers and principals were engaging and interested in helping me get
involved. I can honestly say, I'll be good.
We
visited the fake markets, shopped with the locals and tourists, experienced the
nightlife, ran through the city each day, braved the subways and
toured homes. Let me tell you, one would have thought we were on HGTV's
House Hunters International! It was an overwhelming experience. The housing we
saw offered so many amenities. And the views of a city that holds 23 million
people were incredible.
Aaaaahhhh!
How do you say no to this?
Friday,
October 4-
We
signed!! ... And I submitted my resignation at one if the best places I've ever
been employed. Oh my. I'm so overwhelmed! What does this mean? How will it play
out? What are the logistics of moving a family of five around the world? I have
so many questions.
Everyone
is so blown away when we share the news. Trust me, I can hardly believe that
we'll soon be residing in China!
Stay tuned to follow our journey. It will promise to be incredible.